Monday, December 15, 2008

Toastmasters International Youth Leadership Program

Just completed the MIM (Malaysian Institute of Management) Toastmasters International Youth Leadership Program with other Toastmasters volunteers from 12th to 14th December 2008! I was a presenter and mentor. There were a total of 26 participants, ages 15-19. Tiring but rewarding. It's amazing what the kids could achieve in three short days. Program covered leadership skills with special focus on public speaking. Normally held twice a year. Next one will be in June 2009. Much positive feedback from both participants and parents/guardians. A little encouragement goes a long way!

Parents frequently asked if their kids could join Toastmasters. The answer is Yes, if he/she is eighteen years or above. For those of you not familiar with Toastmasters, it's a speaker's club. Great to help those butterflies fly in formation if you're nervous about speaking before an audience. There're lots of Toastmasters Club in Klang Valley. Some organisations also have their own Toastmasters Club to to encourage their employees to brush up their communication skills. If you want to join, look for a club near you. Meeting Hours and Venue are different from club to club.

MIM is one of the biggest clubs and open to the public. We meet every first and third Saturday morning, 9.30 am to 12.30 noon. Guests welcome.

Monday, October 06, 2008

Talk at UTAR

Someone asked why I haven't been updating my blog regularly. My apologies ... I have been so caught up in writing my next book which I aim to complete soon.

Recent Programme: My husband Ahmad Fakhri and I ran a two-day WORK LIFE BALANCE workshop on 29th - 30th July 2008 at Boulevard Hotel Midvalley. He gave the corporate perspective and I gave a personal one. Participants were a good mix. Met with some wonderful people from the health, insurance and tourism industries, among others. It was mutual learning. We learnt from them as much as they learnt from us!

Coming Up Next: On Saturday, 18th October 2008, 9.45 am, I will be giving a parenting talk at UTAR, Petaling Jaya. Do come if you have time. If you happen to read this, please spread the word about the talk.

Programme Details:

Time: 18th October 2008 (Saturday), 9.45 am - 12 noon
Venue: Universiti Tunku Abdul Rahman (UTAR)
Centre for Extension Education
11, Jalan 13/6, 46200 Petaling Jaya

Admission is FREE and open to the public but registration is on first-come-first-served basis.

If you would like to attend, please contact Ms Eileen / Mr Ooi at 03-7957 2818 / 7955 5181 ext. 8663 / 8611. Email cee@mail.utar.edu.my

Thanks a lot :)

Friday, June 20, 2008

Noteworthy New Zealand


by Jamilah Samian

My family and I went to New Zealand recently for 14 days from 23/5/08 till 6/6/08. We clocked in more than 2,900 km, stayed in a campervan, roamed the beaches, cities, towns, gorges and farms in the North and South. What an adventure! These notes are kept brief and straight to the point on purpose and are for your benefit if you plan to do a similar trip in future.

PreDeparture

To make the trip more fun and meaningful, everyone was assigned special tasks. Ahmad Fakhri - Overall Program Manager; Me - Food Coordinator; Alia (age: 17) - Financial & Medical Coordinator; Safi (14) - Journey Coordinator; Syarif (12) - Prayer Schedule & Gadget Coordinator; Siraj (9) - Airport & Weather Coordinator.

Day 1

Touchdown: Outside Auckland Airport
Clockwise from left: Syarif, me, Safi, Alia, Siraj

Disembarked at Auckland and greeted by cheerful Dave who brought us to the KEA Campers headquarters. Took more than an hour to go through paperwork and inspect campervan. It’s awesome! The one we booked was 6-berth - the biggest they had. Facilities provided in the campervan included: toilet-cum-shower, vacuum cleaner, kitchenette (gas cooker with hood, microwave oven, sink, cutlery and crockery for 6, fridge), drawers to stow away clothes and personal items, electric heater, pillows, blankets, duvets, towels. Extra towels, blankets, pillows can be provided at no extra charge. At night time, the top berth can fit two persons. The two tables can be converted and transformed into two more twin beds. Glad we only took duffel bags as these are collapsible. Otherwise, storage would have been a problem.

Mega mighty machine: The six berth campervan



A house on wheels: Inside the campervan

First stop at Takapuna Holiday Beach. Night was pretty cold as it’s prewinter but we quickly got used to the weather. Some camping sites charge per head. Others per family. Went to Food Town (open 24/7) for groceries.

Day 2

Still in Auckland. Found Borders Bookstore, biggest in New Zealand. It’s a challenge to drive a vehicle this size around the city (plus it’s manual and neither of us have touched the wheel of one for years) but Ahmad finally succeeded to find a parking space. Encountered a flea market next to Borders. Items sold at bargain prices e.g. puzzles, winter coats, Maori products made from tree barks.

Borders: biggest bookstore

Lunch at Kampung Delights along Albert Street, a Malaysian restaurant patronised by Malaysia Airlines cabin crew and Malaysian students. A choice of rice and two selected dishes for one person cost about NZ8. Quite reasonable. Halal Indian cuisine available downstairs.

Met up with a lovely couple, Roshidah (a chartered accountant) and Richard (an engineer) and their kids, Adam and Aishah. Roshidah bought halal hotdogs and chicken for us. Richard and his team published Auckland for Muslims: A Guide for Islamic Places and Services. Was told they exacted high standards during research to ensure the halal requirement is adhered to, so look out for this guide. The booklet is produced by the Mount Eden Islamic Information Centre. For enquiries, write to enquiry@islamicinfo.org.nz Or, visit them at www.islamicinfo.org.nz.

At the table from left: Alia, Roshidah, Pn Fatimah (standing), me,
Ahmad Fakhri, Adzreen (Pn Fatimah's son)




From left: Ahmad, Adzreen and Richard

Had sumptuous dinner of ciabatta (fluffy bread), sup ekor, macaroni and soup, spicy tuna sandwiches, and veggies washed down with pengat pisang with Richard & Roshidah, and Pn Fatimah & En Aziz and their wonderful families. If you are in Auckland and need a Malaysian place to stay, don’t look any further. Kak Timah and En Aziz run Mesra Homestay which offers 6 clean and comfortable double bedrooms. For enquiries, write to mesra_homestay@yahoo.com or visit their site www.mesrahomestay.nz. Heard that Kak Timah makes the tastiest ayam percik in town. Was advised that if you’re going North and South, rule of thumb is 1:3 i.e. spend a third of your time in the North and the rest in the South. Had the first taste of cleaning up the campervan. The indicator will tell you how much waste, water etc you have. There’re special chemicals that are provided to clean the waste cartridge. It’s easy. Daily checklist: Water, Fuel, Oil, Tyres (Air), Waste, Electricity Supply. Water, fuel and gas filled up to the brim. Left Auckland. Took Waikato Expressway for Rotorua. Passed Cambridge town which was really pretty. Passed rolling hills everywhere. Enchanting forest at Mamaku Forest Park.

Day 3

Spent the night at Rotorua Top 10 Holiday Park. It’s next to Kahukura Sports & Rugby Club. The Kiwis are much into rugby it seems. Walked to the mud park which has bubbling and steaming hot geysers. Just discovered that the shower has a timer of 8 minutes. Stay any longer and there won’t be a single drop of water trickling from the shower unless you have someone who can reset the timer for you. Part of the effort on water and energy conservation, I presume. Found out later that this isn’t true of all Top 10's. Some let you use the shower for as long as you like.

Off to the Agrodome for a live demo on sheep shearing and farming. After the demo, a guide, Grant drove us to the farm. On the way he told us that petrol prices in NZ have been raised three times in the past month! He asked: How do you justify the petrol hike? We shrugged. We don’t know either… Fed and made friends with llamas, sheep, deer and cattle. The cattle are humongous. They are at least twice the size of their Malaysian cousins! Went to a Kiwifruit organic farm and had some feijoas (a special Kiwi fruit that resembled the guava). Then to the Gondola and luge ride.

Live: demonstration on sheep shearing and farming at the agrodome


At the organic farm

Next stop: Te Puia. Had a Maori welcome at the Maori Village. The traditional Maori welcome is to touch noses. Took a guided tour to the geothermal area. Top spot was where the stones felt warm to the touch. Left Rotorua for Lake Taupo. Stopped at Huka Falls, an hour’s drive from Rotorua. A must-see spot, quite unlike anything we’ve seen. You can go for white-water rafting here if it’s not too cold.


Geysers in action complete with pungent smell!

Back on the road and passed by snow-capped mountains. There is a certain allure to these mountains. Air is so clean and fresh. I could feel it in my bones! Stopped at Turangi to check tyres. Passed barren desert at Ruapehu district. Reached Palmerston North at dusk. Ahmad’s cousin, Thaharah, a post-graduate student, lives here with her husband Taufiq and three kids. Gave them the four bottles of kicap as requested by Ayah Alang. What a dinner they prepared us! Sambal tumis udang, beef curry, briyani rice with cashew nuts and barbecued chicken, stir-fried mixed veggies, salad, dhall curry, popadum, and mango juice. Brought us to Pak & Save the next day.

Passed Paekakariki when it started drizzling. When the sun shines, it does so with such brilliance. The Kiwis actively promote road safety. Encountered reminders and stark messages along the way e.g. “DRINK & DrIvE”, “TIRED DRIVERS DIE”, “DRIVER REVIVER”, “SEAT BELTS ARE LIKE HUGS. KIDS NEED THEM”, “YOU‘RE A LONG TIME DEAD. SO WHAT'S THE HURRY?”. Reached Wellington in the evening. Some days we spent on the road. Some days we enjoyed the place. As much as possible we avoid traveling at night for safety reasons. Dusk is about 5.30pm so we make it a point to be off by 7am. Tomorrow we will make our way to Te Papa.

Day 5

The GPS we rented (NZ75 rental and NZ450 refundable deposit) helped us to get to the campsite after a bewildering ride through the traffic in Wellington (peak hours!). I like it that Wellington doesn’t have too many billboards. As in other cities, buildings are pretty well spread out as land is not an issue here. Besides, population is relatively low and heard that there are more sheep than people in New Zealand.

Day 7

Walked along Aotea/Quay Waterfront. Took the tram ride uphill to the Botanic Garden. We’re all wrapped up and saw some people jogging in shorts! Next stop was at Sea & City Museum (entrance is free) where we came across a number of Kiwi students on a class visit. Encountered seagulls. Watched a holographic performance by “little people”. Walked to Te Papa, a good educational opportunity for kids. Saw the biggest sea shell fossil there. Te Papa is six stories high but we only managed to see four. Met with Michelle, my husband's colleague who is on posting here. She led us to New World Supermarket for frozen Malaysian paratha. Time to stock up the freezer again! Had dinner at Satay Kajang Restaurant with Michelle.

Day 9

Left Michelle’s place at 7am for the InterIslander ferry service at Wellington Harbour. It’s good that we have booked early since the ferry service is full especially on long weekends. You can’t just go there and purchase a ticket. The ferry is huge and eight-deck high with facilities including lookout deck, playroom for children, nap corners and restaurants. The waters are calm today so it’s a pleasant three-hour ride all the way to Picton Harbour in the South Island. Arrived safe and sound at 2.15pm and made our way to the Makana Chocolate Factory at Blenheim.


Choc chef at Blenheim

Saw endless acres of vineyards. On the way to Kaikoura, saw Mt Cook from a distance. Waipapa Beach is simply amazing. Signboard told us to watch out for seals but didn’t see any. Encountered many Kiwis here lugging boats and bikes. Seems that Kiwis like to camp quite a lot, which is not surprising seeing that the facilities are available. Passed deer farms just after Cheviot Town. None of the deer has an antler. Saw a couple of seals on the way to Oaru River. Left Kaikoura, which is famous for dolphin and whale watching. You need to rent a boat to do this. Reached Dunedin tired and hungry after dusk after a nine-hour ride. Dunedin is home to Baldwin Street, the steepest street in the world. Driving the campervan through the steep roads gave us the jitters. We wondered if the vehicle would slide backwards at times. Dunedin is also home to Otago University, which has many Asian students. Cadbury factory is also here.

Day 10

Dunedin railway station


Off to the Railway Station. Thought we could get on the hop-on/hop-off bus but apparently it’s not around in winter. Went to the Otago Museum Discovery Centre.

Discovery Centre Otago

Had a terrific lunch at Encik Sabri & Puan Laili’s place. The couple took us for a ride to Signal Hill, a lookout post for Dunedin, and Andy Bay. Saw people surfing in the cold. Wouldn’t have believed that anyone would surf in the cold it if I hadn’t seen it myself. Passed Gore and Clinton towns but no Bush around.

Day 11

Off to Milford Sound. From Te Anau, allow two hours because of the winding road to Milford Sound in Fiordland. Be sure you fill up the fuel as there’s limited supply once you left Te Anau. Passed through gushing streams and calm waters of the Eglington River along Alpine Road.


What we saw before entering a tunnel on the way to Milford Sound

Reached Milford Sound just in time for the 1.30 Red Boat Cruise. It’s worth the wait! Milford Sound was named as the eighth natural wonder of the world by Rudyard Kipling. Saw two breathtaking rainbows against the backdrop of cascading waterfalls. Fantastic weather despite it being winter. Free coffee/tea on board. Left for Te Anau again. Spent a night at Te Anau, next to the lake, a lovely place to explore. Best Top 10 facilities we've seen so far! Spanking clean bathrooms. It’s a pity we didn’t manage to see the Glowworm Caves tour that started at about 7pm as we were too tired.

Milford Sound: eighth natural wonder


Milford Sound: A view to behold

Day 12


Left Te Anau for Mossburn on the way to Queenstown. Encountered strong gust of wind near Mossburn. Along Lake Wakatipu, we drove right into a movie crew at Devil’s Staircase Lookout, filming, I supposed, a documentary. The water scenes for the movie “The Sea Horse: Legend of The Deep” were shot here. Had brunch of roti canai, sambal udang, curry gravy at Lake Wakatipu in Queenstown. Passed Arrowtown, once famous for the Gold Rush. Avoided the zig-zagging road to the ski area and took an alternative route instead. Crossed Kawarau River.
Stopped at an orchard and bought choc nuts, pistachios and fresh fruits. Reached Puzzling World (owned and ran by the family of Stuart Landsborough) on the way to Wanaka. It’s full of mazes, illusions and puzzles if you’re into these. Really thrilling and an educational treat. Spent the night at Wanaka and was told it was zero degrees Celsius. Previous night was even colder.

Puzzling World near Wanaka



The Hobbit Effect: Fact or fiction? One of the many illusions at Puzzling World

Day 13


Stopped at Lake Pukaki, the bluest waters I've seen with the majestic Mt Cook as backdrop.

Breathtaking: Bluest waters at Lake Pukaki

Reached Christchurch at almost dusk. Warm welcome by En Khairuddin (postgraduate student) and Pn Ita. Learnt that rubbish is only collected once a week here to discipline people to recycle as much as possible. Wish this is done in Malaysia. Spent a night at their house. Feted to a delicious dinner of sambal tumis and mackerel with soy sauce! Best sambal tumis ikan bilis I’ve had. Lovely family. Went to the International Antarctic Centre for a little dose of snow. You can experience the Antarctic Storm (starting at -8C), watch penguins at feeding time and go for the Hagglund Ride. The Hagglund is genuine, an amphibious vehicle used in the Antartic. It’s a 15-minute ride which takes you through steep mounds, deep crevasses and go slow in deep water. Thrilling for some but one ride was enough to make me feel sick because of the sudden drops and climbs. A bit like the roller coaster.

The chilling zone: Experience the Antartic snowstorm at -25 degrees

Great dinner with Ita & En Khairuddin again! Evening: Time to wrap up our visit and start packing.

Day 14

Took an early flight from Christchurch to Auckland. Had the most scrumptious blueberry muffin onboard. Goodbye New Zealand!

BONUS NOTES:

New Zealand is by far the country with the most stunning sights and the cleanest cities (even on Sundays when the cleaners are not around) I’ve ever seen. I’ve done quite a bit of traveling myself over the years and I must say NZ topped the list. The campervan offers the ultimate flexibility and more fun (my personal opinion of course) as you don’t have to lug bags in and out of hotels or make prior arrangements with cabs to get to your next destination. It’s an excellent choice if you want to fully engage with nature, which was what we had in mind in the first place. It’s more comfortable for passengers since there is more leg room. One table could stay intact while vehicle is in motion so kids could read/play board games while you’re on the move. It costs less than staying in hotels. Both Ahmad Fakhri and I are used to traveling since our student days so exploring a foreign country on our own is not something new to us. Plus you could stop at one of the many tranquil towns and scenic spots for a break, heat up some food and have a meal or nap anytime you wish. This helps especially when you cover many hours of driving a day.

You stand a good chance to witness firsthand the picture perfect and captivating sunrise if you‘re up before 8am. It’s crucial that you have ample rest the night before so you are alert the next day. This is especially true for the driver as you’ll need extra time to cover long distance. The campervan has a 90km/hr speed limit. The Kiwis are strict on traffic rules. There’s a high penalty for offences and if you are slapped with a fine, you’ll be left at least NZ200 poorer. Some traffic rules differ a bit from what we have in Malaysia e.g. in terms of right-of-way, so check this out before you start driving. Check if the campervan you’re booking is automatic or manual. Ours was manual, which can be a bit unnerving if you haven’t touched one in years. Also, some go on diesel and others on petrol. The campervan is very much a Do-It-Yourself thing, so you need to be a hands-on person with a good dose of the adventurous streak to boot.

On arrival, we registered as members of Top 10 Camping Sites. Most of the time we stayed at Top Ten as they provided good facilities e.g. toilets and showers, kitchen (if you don‘t want to cook in the campervan) and coin-operated laundry machines.

You do not need to bring too many clothes. It’s cold, you don’t sweat much and don’t have to bathe as frequently as in Malaysia. We brought four pairs of clothes each and even this was too much. Half of these were never worn.

I brought my laptop along but only managed to use it once. A safe is provided in the campervan to store valuables. The van has a built-in television set and DVD console but we hardly used these. We were just too engrossed with the surroundings.

If you are highly sensitive to the cold or have a child who is, it is better to be over prepared with long johns, sweaters, winter coats and thermal socks as it could get very chilly especially at night. Also, these days there are special waterproof trousers that will keep you extra warm. Got them from a shop at Jalan Loke Yew.

A big heartfelt THANK YOU to Richard and Roshidah, Encik Aziz and Kak Fatimah at Auckland, Thaharah and Taufiq (Palmerston North), Michelle (Wellington), Encik Sabri and Puan Laili (Dunedin), Encik Khairuddin and Ita (Christchurch) and all the Kiwis and Malaysians who welcome us with such warmth, generosity and hospitality and made our visit all the more memorable. Thank you, too, to the man at a certain ticketing counter who issued free tickets to our children. It's a pity I can't mention his name here; it might cost him his job.

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Children and Safety: It Pays to be Proactive

by Jamilah Samian

It was hot and humid, the fifth day of the midterm school holidays. Ahmad and I had spent the entire morning going from store to store hunting for baby items in anticipation of our second child. The shopping trip was great but tiring. Now we were at the main entrance of a fourteen-storey hotel-cum-shopping centre. Throngs of people sauntered in and out of the entrance. Ahmad and I clutched our shopping bags as we began to look for an eatery to have a quick bite for lunch. I was eight months pregnant. I had been on my feet all day long. My feet ached and my stomach rumbled. The sheer number of people milling around made me feel dizzy. As Ahmad had both hands full, I loosely held my three-year-old son’s hand.

Several minutes later, we spotted a promising looking restaurant and began to make our way there. Just twenty feet away on the right, I caught sight of a lift opening its doors. It quickly filled with people. Then, out of the blue and before I could stop him, I saw my little son run into the lift as its doors closed. I stood rooted to the floor in shock. “The boy ... he ran into the lift!” I gesticulated wildly to my husband, who, at that moment, was looking for a vacant table for us to sit.

“Wait for me right here,” Ahmad said and dashed to a security person who happened to be passing by. I saw him talking to the man rapidly and then both men rushed to another lift near the one my son went into. The man inserted a key into a panel in the lift just before they disappeared from my sight. I was beside myself with fear, worry and guilt. My legs felt like jelly. I wondered: Would my son get out of the lift at a certain floor? Would he be safe? Would they find him? The next ten minutes were sheer agony, until the two men reappeared ... with my crying son in tow. “We found him at the fourteenth floor all by himself,” Ahmad said in relief. The two of them had gone from floor to floor, calling my son’s name loudly at each stop. We thanked the security man profusely. His fast action had saved the day. By inserting the special key into the panel of the lift they used, it was deactivated i.e. it would not open its doors to anyone outside, enabling them to search and locate my son without interruption.

My son is now twenty-two and a final year engineering student. Yet I still shudder when I think of the incident. Losing young children in the shopping mall or any public place for that matter is a big deal and a nightmare for any parent, especially when it is crowded to the brim with people. Every now and then we read of paedophiles and other unscrupulous characters out on the prowl for young children. For many parents, the safety of their little ones is a top priority and a daily concern. How do you avoid such episodes from occurring? When it comes to safety at public places, being proactive is one of the recommended strategies. Being proactive means anticipating what could happen and taking preventive steps as follows:

- Read a story about a lost child. Young children usually find it easier to understand ideas through stories read to them. Concepts like “stranger” and “safety” are easier to grasp for preschoolers with the help of pictured books. For older children, if you come across an article in a newspaper about a missing child, share the story with them and have a discussion on what the parents and child could have done to avoid the incident. Or, what the child could have done if he finds himself lost.

- Remind young children to always hold your hand. This may seem obvious, but children are unpredictable and curious and get distracted easily with the numerous things they see at public places. If something grabbed their attention, they could stay rooted at a spot, oblivious to the fact that you had walked off the premises.

- Tell them to stay near you. If they could see you and you could see them comfortably, then they are at a safe distance from you. This would apply to certain places like theme parks and playgrounds where it may not be practical to keep holding their hands at all times.

- Tell them to stay where they are if they are lost. It is normally easier for you to look for them rather than the other way round as they might wander further and further away if they try to locate you once they realized they are lost.

- Take note of your child’s clothing before going out. This would help security personnel to identify your child if he or she gets lost in a crowded place.

- Tell them to not play hide-and-seek at the shopping centre. Some kids might get excited at the sight of rows upon rows of hanged clothing especially and may think it’s a good place to hide for fun.

- Tell your child never to accept gifts like toys or sweets from strangers. Food and drink items could be laced with drugs.

Think twice before you decide to bring the little ones on shopping trips during peak hours. The busiest times include the evenings after office hours and school holidays. It could be wiser to leave them with a trusted baby-sitter instead when you absolutely have to go out during these periods. Shopping with your young child is a far more pleasant affair during non-peak hours because he or she could help you choose the items you’re looking for – an opportunity for the two of you to bond and for him to learn. Besides, you would have greater peace of mind as you don’t feel harassed with the thought of rubbing shoulders with scores of other shoppers trying to squeeze through the same aisle ... or thinking that your child might dash and disappear into unknown territory like my son did.

- As published in ParenThink May 2008 issue

Thursday, January 03, 2008

For The Love of Logic and Mathematics

By Jamilah Samian

What would you do if your four-year-old throws a tantrum in the middle of a toy shop because you simply refuse to buy a toy that he wants? Depending on your style of parenting and your mood at the time, you might resort to punishing the child, for instance smacking him for what you see as distasteful behaviour. Or, you might want him to learn from the consequences of his actions by ignoring his pleas to tag along the next time you go shopping. Perhaps you might say, “The next time I go shopping, you will have to stay home. I am not happy that you screamed so much just because I refuse to buy the toy that you wanted.”

Of course, this method only works if you follow through with what you said you would do i.e. you actually did not bring him along on the next shopping trip. By explaining the consequences of his less-than-pleasant demeanor and following through, you are helping to nurture his ability to think in a logical manner. In this case, he would quickly learn that his action (throwing a tantrum) causes him to be grounded. Indeed, one way to nurture logical thinking in young children is by letting them learn the consequences of their behaviour. Learning the logical consequences of their own behaviour is a powerful way of instilling discipline among children. Logical thinking, then, is the ability to reason.

Keep in mind, though, that there is a big difference between what is misdemeanor and what is not for younger and older children. It is completely natural for a two-year-old to dip her fingers in a cake mixture out of curiosity if she is left alone with it or for a one-year-old to unravel a ball of thread or pull out tapes out of cassettes if he is allowed to grab hold of them. Any of these behaviours, though, would be unacceptable for a ten-year-old child. It is absolutely essential for us parents to be aware of the kind of behaviour to expect with each developmental stage a child is going through.

The ability to think logically is crucial for a child, not only because it helps to inculcate discipline but also due to the fact that thinking logically is an essential part of science and mathematics. In fact, so entrenched is logical thinking in mathematical concepts that Dr Howard Gardner, the originator of Multiple Intelligences, married these two together as one. In Dr Gardner’s own words, mathematical-logical intelligence is “the ability to detect patterns, reason deductively and think logically”.

When it comes to Mathematics, many of us tend to associate the field with numbers. While it is true that the foundation of Mathematics starts with the introduction of numbers, numbers is only a part of Mathematics. As children progress from preschool through secondary school and consequently to college, a considerable component of Mathematics is intricately linked with problem solving, which is associated in large part with logical thinking. For example, consider this simple mental arithmetic question on fractions that Jee, a ten-year-old, has to solve:

Aminah bought 30 eggs. She used 2/3 of the eggs to bake cakes. How many eggs had she left?

To solve this problem, Jee must be able to reason that the batch of 30 eggs, when divided into three portions, will give ten eggs per portion. Hence, since Aminah used 2/3 of the eggs, she used (2 x 10) eggs = 20 eggs. Notice that the first step Jee has to take is to decide that she needs to tackle the division bit (instead of adding, subtracting or multiplying) before she does anything else.

Mathematics is a subject that steadily builds on previous understanding. Because of this, it is crucial that your child has a solid foundation in Mathematics right from the beginning. Any confusion or misunderstanding will be carried forward to future years and as time passed, this confusion may be difficult to unravel. It is true that some children have a natural affinity for Mathematics, displaying a natural ease when dealing with Mathematical concepts like numbers and geometry and do not need much help. Yet others may need extra help to value similar ideas. Although it is also true that you cannot force your child to appreciate Mathematics, you can encourage him or her to develop a liking for Mathematical and logical thinking from a tender age with the following:

- Encourage your child to explore. An enquiring mind often starts with a passion to explore. Exploration for younger children is synonymous with touching. That is why it is good to let your child lay his hands on as many things as possible. If your child is still a toddler, this is a good time to put away or keep out of reach fragile items especially decorative ones to reduce the number of “No’s” from you! Plus, a child who is consistently told “No” will, after a while, naturally be inclined not to explore. Why try when all you get is a furious glare or a mouthful of scolding?

- Develop a love for problem-solving. Problem-solving starts with asking lots of questions. That is why you should make your best attempt to answer your child’s queries, no matter how trivial they may seem. For example, if you are making play dough and the recipe says to mix two cups of flour with one cup of salt, you might ask your three-and-a-half-year-old to help you find out how much salt you need if you use one cup of flour. The kitchen, by the way, is an excellent venue to start a child on mathematical and logical concepts as cooking and baking need plenty of weighing and measuring, exposing children to scientific paraphernalia like measuring cups, spoons and the weighing scale.

- Engage your child in counting activities. Ask your child, “There are four spoons on the table. We have six guests coming. How many more spoons do we need?” Or count the steps as you walk up and down the stairs. If you want to introduce the concept of multiplication, count in twos, threes, fours and so on. Or say you have just returned home from grocery shopping, you could say something like, “Nina, we have just bought two bottles of Vitagen here and in the fridge there are three bottles of them. How many bottles of Vitagen do we have now?”

- Introduce the concept of measurement. Take an object, for instance, a pencil or a marker pen and start measuring items around the house with it. This will expose your child to the concept of relative length. Change the object with which you do the measuring to make it fun. For shorter items, use smaller objects like erasers, pocket notebooks or a cork.

- Point out the shapes of objects. Geometry is part of Mathematics, and you can draw your child’s attention to the various shapes and sizes that are available around him. For example, let him hold a boiled egg before he eats it for breakfast and say, “The egg is oval in shape. Do you see anything else that’s oval?” Other shapes that are easily recognizable are rectangles, squares, circles and cubes. Compare the different shapes and sizes as you go along.

- Encourage him to play with blocks and structures. Three-dimensional structures figure strongly in Mathematics. Having a hands-on experience with 3-D (three dimensional) structures will help your child to form mental pictures of these items and strengthen his spatial intelligence.

- Help him to understand patterns. This is a concept not limited to Mathematics as it also exists in works of art and literature. Understanding patterns helps prepare your child for the concept of sequencing in Mathematics. For this, you can use a pattern of numbers and/or objects e.g. arrange three spoons followed by one fork followed by two cups. Repeat the pattern all over again.

Last but not least, a love for all things logical and Mathematical begins with the right attitude. Even if you never enjoyed Mathematics, do refrain from making any remarks which might influence your child to develop a dislike for the subject e.g. “Hannah, don’t worry about not being able to do that, dear. I was never good at Mathematics myself.” Or “There are so many people out there who become rich without ever learning Mathematics. So don’t bother!” Just because you never liked Mathematics doesn’t mean that your child is destined to have the same attitude. While your like or dislike towards Mathematics may have been formed by your previous experiences with teachers and other adults, your child deserves a fresh start. If your child thinks that Mathematics is something beyond his reach, he would naturally shy away from anything he sees as remotely associated with Mathematics. And because Mathematics is a big part of everyday living, that would lead to a major loss for him ... You wouldn’t want your child’s cold attitude towards Mathematics to develop into a self-fulfilling prophecy!

As published in Ibu dan Anak (ParenThink) December 2007 issue